Tackling Low Self Confidence; 6 Tips That will Get Results

How confident you feel every day can impact your ability to live the life you want. Low confidence and self-esteem are quite often thought to be something that predominantly affects women. And while research suggests that men are more self-assured than women in general, there is a considerable section of the male population who aren’t feeling confident enough to live life on their terms and get everything they want from it.

The thing with confidence is that it can’t be bought, but it can be faked, and it can also be developed. If you want to boost your confidence, here are some surefire ways to do just that.

Improve Your Appearance

Smartening up how you look will help you to feel your best when leaving home each morning. Take a look in the mirror and pay attention to your daily habits when it comes to getting ready.

What can you change or improve? Do you need to invest in good skincare? Eradicate tired, dull-looking skin for a more youthful, fresh appearance. Do you need to visit the dentist for cosmetic dentistry to help you straighten your teeth, replace missing teeth, or even invest in teeth whitening products? Maybe you want to look into the cost of hair restoration to cover hair loss or thinning hair?

If how you look is the source of your low confidence, then tackling aspects of your appearance that you aren’t happy with can be a great place to start. There is no shame in wanting to take pride in your appearance, and how good you look will directly impact how good you feel.

One thing to remember when improving your appearance to make you feel more confident is that how you look is often only part of the issue. Cultivating an improved appearance can help you look good and feel good, but it won’t eradicate any other confidence blocks you might have, so don’t rely on this aspect to completely erase your low self-confidence; use it as a tool to help you build from where you are now to where you want to be.

Positive Mindset

No one likes a defeatist attitude. Anyone, not just men, who are constantly down on themselves in the world isn’t going to be someone others want to connect with, and this defeatist attitude will impact your self-confidence.

Instead, you want to squash that negative internal monologue that is feeding into your insecurities and replace it with a whole new positive spiel. The better you think of yourself and the world around you, the more positive your mindset will be and the more of a confidence boost you will get.

This doesn’t come naturally to everyone, though, and starting small by tweaking those harmful thoughts when they pop into your head will help you out. Instead of pointing out the things you don’t like about yourself or anything in your head, look for the positives and replace one negative thought with a positive one. Pretty soon, you’ll have that inner monologue in check and on the right path.

Know Yourself and Own It

This is a pretty big one regarding being confident, but you need to know who you are as a person, what your habits are, insecurities, and flaws. No one is perfect, and perfection is indeed overrated, but those people who exude natural confidence are also people who know who they are and are confident in their ability to use this to their advantage.

While you do want to embrace the things you are good at, you need to embrace your flaws too, as it’s these qualities that make us unique, and you can even use this to your advantage. No one is free from flaws. Everyone has some parts of themselves that aren’t perfect, and honestly, this is ok. While society ridicules people for their flaws, social media has really brought to the surface the toxicity of the human race; this is an inherent flaw in humanity itself, too, and you should not be concerned with what others think or even compare yourself against other people. Only your past self to evaluate how far you’ve come.

Be Open To Learning

There can often be a fine line between confidence and arrogance, and finding that can be helpful in ensuring you don’t cross it. Arrogance, by definition, is having an inflated view of one’s abilities or importance, while confidence is having faith to rely on yourself to get things done.

It’s important not to believe the hype and over-inflate your ego by thinking you are somewhat better than everyone else or know everything. You can do this by continually learning new things, having new exercises, and broadening your horizons. No one person can honestly know everything and the old saying “knowledge is power” is definitely true. You see, the simple act of learning and being successful in the endeavor will give you the confidence to see your abilities and what you are capable of, and you can build on your foundations from here.

Build Social Connections

Being an introvert isn’t something to be ashamed of, and in fact, this can be a huge character strength; you are happy with yourself and your own company and do not feel the need to be social and active all the time. There is a level of confidence in showing you know you’re fine on your own and can get by. However, social connections are part and parcel of human life, and being able to forge social connections can help you to boost your confidence.

This doesn’t mean you need to go out and be a social butterfly or make meaningless connections, far from it.

Choose your connections carefully. You can volunteer at a cause close to your heart; you can join a sports team, take up a hobby, and connect with others in the same circles, or even join men’s organizations that can help to put connections within your grasp and foster those all-important connections.

Set Goals

Setting goals is something that can help you to push forward with your life, and as you hit these goals, you can benefit from the added confidence boost the completion of goals can give you.

Your goals can be absolutely anything you want them to be, but make them SMART Goals.

• Specific
• Measurable
• Attainable
• Relevant
• Timely

This means you need to know what it is you want to accomplish, why it’s important to you, how you will measure your progress, whether or not it’s attainable, and show how you’re oging to make it attinable. You need to be able to take relevant action to meet your goals and do so in a timely fashion with specific deadlines and timelines to help you avoid making your goals and letting them fall by the wayside.

Low confidence is something that can limit our lives and stop us from doing the things we really want to do. But the thing is, only you can work to improve your confidence issues and overcome challenges that are in your way.

Focus on the areas of yourself that you feel are impacting your confidence and, look at the ways you can change or remove these blocks and begin your journey to overcoming self-doubt and negativity and living your best confident life.

These tips can be used alone or together to help you grow your confidence and improve your life on your terms in a way that works for you and remember; you can always fake it til you make it!